In order to know Solange Knowles, Sherri Shepherd or Michael Jace, you would have to be either fans of a certain type music, daytime TV or nighttime cable drama.
But thanks to personal family situations gone wrong they all three have probably reached the height of their fame, and I don’t think any of us would trade places with them.
Last week Solange’s physical attack of brother-in-law Jay-Z took fans of the super private Carter family to a place they never thought they’d be.
From the production of Blue Ivy to Beyonce’s latest album…Beyonce and Jay Z unabashedly answer to no one and do everything they do their way on their terms. And it all went to hell when Sister Solange came for Jay Z in a way that even the best PR experts could not spin in their favor.
The Real Housewives of Atlanta and other reality shows have primed us for watching these types of train wrecks, but Solange took it to the next level. At least with reality shows, you can say they’ve signed off on having their lives documented at its best and worse.
But this was just raw, in-your-face, can’t wait until we get to the house or inside the limo mess. If anything good comes from this fight, it’s that none of us will ever do so much as check our noses in the “privacy” of an elevator again.
Yikes! Shame on the security guard who sold the footage, shame on TMZ for not only buying it but for setting up a system for putting people’s private and personal business for sale, and shame on us for watching it over and over and over again.
Sherri Shepherd, a Black, female stand up comedian was up against the odd the moment she decided to pursue show business as a career. I’m personal friends with professional comedians male and female and have seen the sacrifices they have to make firsthand.
The money isn’t good, the nights are long, the travel is brutal and it takes a massive toll on families. The idea is to work hard enough to get that sitcom deal, or movie deal or talk show deal…anything that would allow them to practice their craft and make enough money to give their families the kind of life they dreamed of giving them.
Sherri got all that. Now all that she’s worked for is coming into question because her ex-husband and father of her son Jeffrey and her current and soon to be ex-husband and father of her unborn child of a surrogate, Lamar Sally are attacking her, her character, her parenting skills, etc. at the same time. Suddenly, it sucks to be Sherri.
Jeffrey’s dad says Sherri’s unfit because she works all the time and the 9-year-old boy can’t even tie his own shoes. He’s filed for a temporary emergency custody order and even though the judge found no cause for it, a hearing has been set. Guys I know are like, “if she’s working that hard then why shouldn’t Little Jeffrey be with his dad?” Screech!
Most women, including moms, have to work, and even if I didn’t have to, I would, I might add. Maybe Tarpley and Sally should go out and get the best jobs they can, work as hard as Sherri does and they’ll find out how much time it takes to attempt to balance work, parenting and a life of their own.
Dads who want to be part of their kid’s lives, are there for them and they don’t have to try to win primary custody of their children in order to make it happen.
On the other hand, if Sherri needs to re-think her nanny situation and make sure Little Jeffrey is getting all the nurturing he needs from loving people, including Big Jeffrey and maybe even Sally, depending on how important he has become to the boy, then give her the chance to do it.
The first two stories seemed pretty sad for those involved until the news of actor Michael Jace calling the police to tell them he had shot his wife of 10 years was announced. According to reports, he stayed on the line with dispatchers until the LAPD arrived on the scene and found her dead. It’s a chilling, horrific, and unbelievably tragic story, especially in light of the fact that their two young sons were present when it happened. (They are now with family members.)
Now the fact that Jay-Z stood there while Solange hit, kicked and spat on him without raising a finger seems even more noble, and Sherri Shepherd’s ex saying that she is an unfit mom seems even more ridiculous. Jeffrey missing a few bedtime stories because his mom is out making money doesn’t even compare to what these children have gone through.
Men and women, no matter how much you want custody of your children, when you throw around words like abuse and neglect when there’s no basis for it, you jam up the system and waste the time of social workers and judges who could be dealing with real problems that require immediate attention.
I don’t even have time to go into the fact that Jace had a history of violence toward women and how the wife he murdered protected him when his ex-wife testified about his abuse. marriage.
The cycle of domestic abuse linked to drugs, alcoholism and depression has to be stopped…but so does all the B.S., Jeffrey Tarpley. If you don’t have any real evidence of Sherri Shepherd physically or mentally abusing your son, sit your sorry ass down somewhere.
Solange, Sherri, Michael Jace: A Tale of Three Families was originally published on blackamericaweb.com